Ex-Family Reunion: Ponderings from an Ex-wife
I saw my ex-husband yesterday at my grandson's birthday party
yesterday. I hadn't seen my ex since our daughter graduated college in
2005.
I have to admit it felt awkward to be in the presence of the man I
lived with for 22 years. We had two children together, and both of them
were at the celebration, so I don't understand my discomfort. Maybe it
is distance between us now that makes us aware that we no longer know
one another; maybe we never did.
He and I parted as friends six years ago, but only after a grueling
divorce during which we both said some harsh and hurtful things to one
another. Seeing him brings back many memories; some good, some not so
good. But, even the sad memories don't hurt me anymore. They are part
of my past, my history that makes me the person I am today.
The wounds have healed and we've both moved on with our lives. Both of
us have remarried and even though I can't speak for him, I know I'm
better off for leaving my first marriage. He seems happy with his new
wife. Happy, yes, but he seemed to have a little sadness too. Maybe he
felt awkward like me. I mean after all, we had planned to grow old
together, not apart.
We both have a new place of belonging now, yet I still wonder if we ever belonged together to begin with.
I have no answers for my pondering questions. I don't suppose I need any. Maybe the answers are the peace I have inside.
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