1. START SMALL
One of the biggest traps people fall headlong into is to make unrealistic demands on how they are going to change everything all at once - sound familiar? Then you usually land up changing nothing and are left bereft of your goals and feeling worse off. But everyone, including you, CAN START SMALL. Think about a 10% improvement in some area of your life; after you have achieved that, you can start on the next aspect. One small chunk at a time.
2. STOP WORRYING ABOUT OTHERS' OPINIONS
What other people think about you in NONE of your business. Yes how often is everything you do, think, or feel based on how others will approve or disapprove of you? Your life is meant to be one of joy and reaching for what makes you happy. If you don't know, find out. Every time you put another's needs ahead of your own for the wrong reasons, and drop yourself off your own priority list, you are in effect making their needs more important than your own. How will you ever achieve happiness? You can continue to think it is the most generous thing (giving of yourself for the betterment of others), which it absolutely IS, PROVIDED it is NOT at the expense of yourself. Be more in control of what you need to do within your own space, take charge of your issues and challenges and stop "vomiting" your stuff into other people's space.
3. QUIT "EITHER / OR" and go for "BOTH"
We have been taught it is one or the other. Really? Who says? This concept boils down to self belief and the idea that you can have what you choose in the way that you want it. Most of us have been brought up to make choices, and choices have consequences. Yet if you have the courageous conversations with yourself and others about what is really important to you, then you may just be able to find a way forward that incorporates BOTH, or several. It is a mindset of how you view the world and what you expect you deserve. It also links to point 2 - it is possible to put yourself on your priority list AND thereby still be able to help others too!
4.TRUST YOUR GUT
I cannot emphasize this enough. Your instincts will always give you the right answer and will show you the orange warning lights. Your nasty, mean and self-deprecating nagging voice will try to sabotage and turn you away from yourself. It is simply your little voice's job to make you doubt yourself, yet your spirit demands that you listen to your gut. Make a decision based on your gut, find reasons to support it and MOVE ON! Think back to any things that "went wrong" and ask yourself honestly if you always knew at the start but simply never listened. This links to point 2 again - so often we are simply scared to trust ourselves and will abdicate to others' rather than make any waves. Commit to trusting SELF and make small steps towards this today.
5. BE ACCOUNTABLE
If you are honest with yourself, then you know whether you are disciplined and self reliable in pursuing your goals or if you need some help. Even the most successful people that you know achieve massive results because they have support and are accountable for the right reasons. Get a support group, a disciplined friend, join a course, and have a "go - to" person to help you stay on track. Quit trying to do it on your own then beating yourself up 'cos you feel like a failure.
It is possible to QUICK SHIFT YOUR LIFE!