“Why is it we never notice what has been done, but only what remains to be done?”
We do it as mothers when we focus on the one messy shelf in a child’s bedroom, not the four that are tidy and neat. We do it in the workplace when we leap to point out what hasn’t been finished, instead of commenting on progress made. We do it to ourselves when we focus on goals not met, instead of on success achieved.
It’s this negative point of view that will bring you down and reduce your motivation. Not the best way to achieve new goals!
Starting today, resolve to be more positive! Look for what has been done; not for what’s left undone. Praise children, colleagues, friends and partners for efforts and progress. Concentrate on your own achievements. The more you recognize and appreciate success, the more success will follow!
©Jane Powell – Meditations for Women
Today’s Affirmation: I focus on things I’ve completed, to motivate my success.
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They must be felt with the heart. Helen Keller
Dear PSG,
I know exactly what you’re going through; I went through it for many years until I chose to have a hysterectomy b/c of my health problems. We ended up adopted two infants, 3 years apart. They were the answer to my prayers and they and their children are now the joys (yes, there are heartaches as every mother knows, but that comes w/every child) of my life. I am a grandmother of 3 now and look back at those desperate, ‘battle-weary’ years and wonder why I hadn’t ‘let go’ sooner to allow the joy to enter. If adoption is at all possible, please consider it…my very best wishes for you and May God Bless you in this chapter of your life journey.
Dear PSG:
I just had to leave you a note to let you know that I know what you are going thru…I have battled this issue for many years. My healing came when I accepted “what is”, and stopped beating up myself about “what isn’t”.
Once you accept “what is”, the pain and yearning will go away….
This sounds good and simple in reading, but the practicality is too dicey. There are things in life that I think are irreplacable, no matter what we have already achieved. For instance, the void of not being able to have children when you actually feel that you could be a great caregiver… Trust me, such void leaves you washed out, no matter how much you earn or how successful you are in other areas of your life! Such a feeling actually makes you feel that none of your achievements really matters–it is such an empty and lonely feeling, makes you forget that you have achived so much (the focus shifts completely!). If you could devise and share an inspiration about this matter, I would personaaly be most grateful–it’s one challenge that seems too big for my shoulders… Thanks in despair.
That would take a lot of weight off my shoulders. I always worry about what needs to be done….thank you.
There are many instances when i realise i have this bad habit,i work on it fr a while and then after some time i get back into this same habit, from now on i will make a concerted effort to focus on what has been done and not what is not done- real meditation
Well, I think we look for perfection and for that reason we miss seeing what we have already done which might also be quite an accomplishment!
Good one! I can relate to this one~~THANK YOU